Dean Bryan Dean Bryan

How To Win Your Dream Date

It all begins with an idea.

Summary

Using game theory in the world of dating is just like using it any other area of life, expect in this case you can win more than money and power, you can win love.

How To Win Your Dream Date

Game theory isn’t just for business and money, you can use game theory in any area of your life and there’s no area it works better in than the game of love. If you’ve ever tried online dating you’ll know that getting the match you like the most to answer your message or acknowledge you at all is the most difficult bit. Why is this and what can you do to change your luck?

Play the game

If you look at dating as a game you’ll be able to see why it’s so hard to land your dream date. You are sent matches based on your likes and personality, you view your matches and you choose the one you like the best. This person is perfect for you, so you reach out, you wink, you like their photos, you send out a message. And you get nothing in reply. Could it be there as on you don’t get a reply is you are not the only one approaching this person? If this person is so amazing doesn’t it stand to reason that lots of other potential suitors are also approaching them? So what do you do? Well, you could realise that this amazing match isn’t going to choose to reply to you when they have a hundred other approaches. They’ll choose someone else. So, you could look again at your matches and choose your second favourite. And the same thing happens again. Maybe you should just cut your losses and go for your fourth favourite straight away. The question is, not who do you most want to date, but how much do you want A date?

Compromise is key

Not many of us partner with the person we fancied the most in school, we date someone we might not have chosen first, but who likes us in return and makes a pretty good date. It’s a compromise. If you aren’t willing to compromise in the game of love you’re not likely to win. Or are you? If we go back to those matches in our online dating world, we can see how choosing someone who isn’t our first choice is logical. But someone does get to date that person. So how do they do it? The answer is, they don’t compromise. Sure, it’s a gamble, but what if we didn’t think about the likelihood of a reply or playing the game and we just message that person anyway? What if the person who doesn’t think it through is the only one who ends up messaging this amazing match because everyone else has convinced themselves they’ll lose?

As always, being able to predict the moves of others is how you’ll win. The guy who gets all the dates isn’t always the best looking guy in the world, but he is the one who plays the hardest, and makes the approach when others are sure they’ll lose .If everyone else is so sure this amazing date won’t chose them, the game is wide open for you to win it.

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